LEADING MEN AND COUPLES
TO RISE, HEAL AND AWAKEN

Face the fear. Heal the pain. and become the love and freedom you already are.

WELCOME - MY NAME IS IAN

The deepest longing of my heart is to support men and couples in rising into maturity, healing, purpose, and spiritual clarity. I feel with all my being that we are at a crucial moment in our human journey—a time when the need to remember the ways of integrity, honesty, truth, prayer, God, and the willingness to take responsibility for our pain and the healing of our people is greater than ever.

Our culture has raised us with the mentality of “If I get more, then I’ll be happy,” which has caused us all to suffer beyond what we're aware of. Our Earth, women, ancestors, and children are all crying inside from this pain. When we look to our men for clear, embodied, heart centered leadership, most are feeling ashamed, burdened with guilt, confused, collapsed, checked out, power hungry or completely unaware of how to feel themselves, their partners and moment to respond to what's needed.

Men have been trained not to cry, to isolate, and to celebrate being the “lone wolf.” But this is clearly not the way. The lone wolf doesn’t howl at the moon because he thinks he’s free—his howl is one of deep pain and longing for his community, his purpose, his family, and his remembrance of God and the Way of the Great Service in his heart.

Now our time has come. It’s time to make a change. It’s time for men to rise. It's time for couples to realize the prayer of their union. It’s time to end the era of the absent father and the era of divorce and separation. It’s time for us to take responsibility for our pain and what we've inherited and do the work to live in integrity with what we wish to see on this Earth.

If you're a man or in relationship and can hear the call of this prayer and wish to lead your life, relationship and embody the deepest purpose of your heart for the benefit of all humanity and life,

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Upcoming Courses and Retreats

UPCOMING COURSES AND RETREATS

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ONLINE MEN'S COURSE

A 13 week course for men on the complete path of spiritual development, healing and maturation of the masculine soul.

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ONLINE COURSE FOR COUPLES

A 12 week course for couples on the path of healing and awakening through the art of relationship.

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1:1 MENTORSHIP

For Men and Couples

This is an intimate container of 3 to 6 months where we dive into a profound process of initiation, maturation, healing and awakening both for couples (1:2) and men.

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BREAKTHROUGH SESSION

For Men and Couples

Do you need support right now and know exactly what you need to work with? Book a 90 minute call with me and I'll support you to breakthrough any difficulty you are facing with precision somatic shadow work and subconscious re patterning.

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ONLINE COURSES

For Men and Couples

I have two 3 month online courses. One for men ready to mature, heal, embody their masculine core and lead from integrity, and one for couples ready realize the spiritual path of intimate relationship. Both are constantly enrolling. Click below to register or join the the wait-list for the next course.

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COUPLE'S RETREATS

I hold couples retreats with my beloved wife Valentina Cannavo on the spiritual path of intimate relationship. These retreats combine cutting edge relationship therapy, trauma release, embodied intimacy practice and Tantric ritual into one clear and coherent path to healing and awakening together.

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MEN'S RETREATS

The Awakened Masculine Intensive is an initiatory retreat for men on healthy masculine embodiment, deep inner work, and the maturation from adolescent psychology to that of a man.

ARE YOU READY TO GO STRAIGHT TO THE ROOT?

I'm not here to talk to you in an endless loops about your history and giving you affirmations to repeat. I'm not a talk therapist or life coach. I'm here to initiate you into your next level of maturity, purpose, spiritual realization, and leadership through direct embodied experience with precision and clarity.

Your time on Earth is precious. Neither you nor I have time to waste in patterns and delusion. Your pain, and your trauma all have their roots in one place deep in your subconscious mind and in the tissues of your body. That is where we will go, that is where we will work, that is what we will unravel and release.

The nuances of our traumas and delusion are all unique, yet the nature the psychology behind them is exactly the same. Once you can pierce through the untruth of your mind through inquiry and bring light to the root of its structures, release the tension your body has built from the years of belief in those structures, integrate and embody the insights from this process, and maintain the direct experience of knowing who you truly are beyond all of it, love and freedom will be revealed as your natural state of being.

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~ The Mature Masculine's Desire ~

When the masculine matures, he realizes that challenge, misfortune, the feminine, and all that disturbs him are not against him; rather, they are revealed as the greatest gifts to his prayer for freedom.

The mature masculine no longer looks for the backdoor exit to any situation. He stands two feet in every challenge, longing for any last remnants of his belief that his freedom is somewhere other than here to reveal themselves so he can dissolve them in the fire of his unwavering discernment and understand that he is:

FREE. HERE. NOW.

His partner is poking him in his weakest, most wounded point, a huge business deal just fell through, he just lost everything in a fire or bad investment, he just lost the love of his life, his mandatory responsibilities are more than what he can physically accomplish in a day. He begins to collapse, then he lifts his head and remembers — there you are again — IT’S NOT TRUE. I am always and have only been:

FREE. HERE. NOW.

He laughs at the irony and stands tall in the face of his deepest challenge, doing his absolute best, with no tension in his body and absolute joy in his HEART.

HE LOVES IT.

“Bring me more,” he says. “You will never collapse what I know myself to be, have always been, and always will be...”

FREE. HERE. NOW.

He rejoices in giving his deepest love to his partner and his deepest purpose to the world. He gives it from pure knowing, from true understanding, that nothing relative can touch him — that nothing could ever close his Heart.

He knows the King, and he is that and that alone.

Waitlist for the spring cohort of The Embodied King is now open. Link is in my bio. Join a community of men who rise no matter what and hold each other to nothing less than their deepest.

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#menscoach #sacredbrotherhood #mensgroup #mensretreat

~ Awakening His Concious Depth ~

The way to create the conditions to receive what you truly want from him is to simply learn to be again in your natural state, the flowing love of the deepest feeling of your heart.

If you hold that position long enough, 2 things will happen.

☀️ One, you will eventually start to feel deeply nourished because you will have created the habit of letting your feelings flow and be seen without fear as opposed to all the strenuous effort it takes to hide them.

☀️ Two, if you hold the posture of your deepest hearts truth for the sake of awakening and revealing love, you will be attuned to your highest practice of relationship and that will either evoke his deepest presence and practice or give you the clarity and confidence to choose a man who can meet you.

The waitlist for the spring cohort of The Art of True Intimacy, our 3 month online course for couples is now open. A special discount bot avaliable to the public is offered to those the list, link is in my BIO 🙏🏻

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~ The Pain Must Be Felt ~

Underneath all of your patterns and addictions, there is pain that is being avoided. And it makes sense. Most likely, you didn't grow up in a household where your parents said, "Come, son, show us what's in your heart, and let's feel and hold it all together."

Most likely, you experienced the opposite in some way. However, now, as an adult, it’s time to take responsibility for it. Every tendency, every addiction, every moment of leaky sexual energy, every collapse, every movement to isolate—these are engagements in what you most likely did as a child to avoid your pain, believing it was wrong to feel it.

Now that you’re aware, the choice is yours: continue to live a life of pattern, or rise and face what needs to be faced—and get free.

This round of The Embodied King is sold out, but the waitlist for the spring cohort is already open. Come home to brotherhood. Come home to yourself. We’re ready for you. 🙏🏻

LINK IN BIO

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~ Ending the Classic Masculine/Feminine Dynamic ~

This is a share on the 3rd pillar of True Intimacy, Awareness of Embodiement of polarity.

If you're the core masculine pole of your relationship and you're the one constantly collapsing in emotion, your feminine partner will be forced to hold you in her masculine. If you constantly make her your mother, it will eventually wear her down and diminish her spark and radiance and arc of sexual polarity.

If you're the feminine pole of your relationship and your constantly barking orders and directional energy at your man like a drill Sargent from fear and anger, you're unconsciously occupying the masculine space of the relationship which will push him into his feminine.

The first step is always awareness. Become aware of what pole you're occupying in any given moment and from there, bring your practice based on what you feel love is calling for in the moment.

For the masculine, show your emotion with more vertically without collapsing, OR for the feminine show the pain of him being unconcious in the moment without blaming him for it.

Vale and I go deep into this dynamic and how to heal it in our 3 month course for couples, The Art of True Intimacy. And at our upcoming retreat in Sedona, Sacred Union.

The waitlist for the spring cohort is now open, the link is in my bio. DM me with any questions.

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~ Maturation Requires Brotherhood ~

You don't need more yoga classes or talk therapy. You need in-depth time with other healthy, embodied and inspiring men dedicated to doing their inner work and longing to serve a purpose greater than themselves.

You dont need more free time, you need to realize that you're free here now, no matter what you're doing with a clear, systematic, and embodied approach to your healing, maturation and awakening.

Your unfelt pain needs to be felt, and the root causes of your repetitive and incoherent patterns need to be seen.

Waitlist for the spring '26 cohort of The Embodied King is now open. 3 months of honest brotherhood, deep practice, and a clear systematic path to heal, mature and awaken as the fully embodied man your community is longing for and that you came here to be.

Link is in my bio. DM me with any questions.

Hope to work and rise with some of you 🙌🏼

#menswork #maturemasculinity #sacredmasculinity #kingwarriormagicianlover #menshealth #divinemasculine
#menscoach #sacredbrotherhood #mensgroup #mensretreat

~The End Of Masculine Relationship Confusion ~

If you see the value of her reflection as an answer to the deepest longing of your heart, claim her and commit to her heart fully.

If you don't, set her free and let her be with a man who does value her for the Oracle she truly is.

If you can see it and feel this prayer and are ready to take her and yourself deeper, join us ! 👇🏼

📍 September 23–27 — In-Person Retreat: True Intimacy in Longeval, France

📍 September 30–December 19 — 3-Month Course for Couples: The Art of True Intimacy

📍 November 21–25 — In-Person Retreat (for 6 Couples Only): Sacred Union in Sedona, Arizona

Links in my BIO // Ask me questions in the comments 🙏🏻

#sacredintimacy #relationshiptherapy #intimacycoach #tantrateacher #relationshipcoach #couplesretreat #conciousrelating #menswork #mensgroup #womensgroup #tantricrelationshipcoach #tantraretreat #sexualtantra #divinefeminine #divinefeminine #yogicintimacy

~ The Ground of True Intimacy ~

Want to go deeper? Join us in one of our upcoming courses or workshops. We'd love to walk with you in this prayer 👇🏼

📍 September 23–27 — In-Person Retreat: True Intimacy in Longeval, France

📍 September 30–December 19 — 3-Month Course for Couples: The Art of True Intimacy

📍 November 21–25 — In-Person Retreat (for 6 Couples Only): Sacred Union in Sedona, Arizona

All links are in my Bio 🙏🏻

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~ Revieling the Great Love ~

We come together by grace, by the will of the divine, by the prayer of our souls to know God, but to truly open to the Great Love, we have to go against everything we know that has kept us safe.

Safe from hurt, but also guarded from the Great Love.

If we are not willing to feel one aspect of the human experience, it automatically cuts us from the deepest longing of our heart which is the Great Love. The love that keeps growing, that love that never ends, the love that conquers every moment, no matter how dark it may seem.

That love is only revealed when we mature into the courage to commit fully. Commitment to each other, commit to the process, commit to love, God, truth and ending the pattern of threatening to leave. That threat will never give the space that's needed for a nervous system to relax beyond its defenses.

And it's hard. What I'm saying is not easy. It requires your deepest discernment, your deepest wisdom and your deepest capacity to love and this is the beauty of relationship is that it calls upon your deepest Heart to rise against all odds.

If you find yourself struggling to find this within and are longing for the path there. We have many opportunities coming up to work with us 👇🏼

📍 September 23–27 — In-Person Retreat: True Intimacy in Longeval, France

📍 September 30–December 19 — 3-Month Course for Couples: The Art of True Intimacy

📍 November 21–25 — In-Person Retreat (for 6 Couples Only): Sacred Union in Sedona, Arizona

Registration and more information on all are in my BIO. We hope to meet some of you in these spaces of the sacred work 🙏🏻

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~ Take the Lead Or She Will Have To ~

I know brothers, it's especially hard in this day and age where the feminine has become accustomed to occupying masculine roles, and we have become accustomed to being ashamed of our innate masculine qualities.

This cultural setup creates the perfect conditions for us to relate from shells of who we think we should be as opposed to who we are at our core.

If one partner, regardless of gender starts to develop tension, exhaustion, and tiredness from upholding whatever role they find themselves in, their most likely denying their core essence in an attempt to harmonize the polarity of the relationship inconciously.

If you are the maculine essenced being of the relationship and you're not taking active leadership of finances, spiritual direction, day to day activities and complaining about her being overly assertive in those areas instead of rising, your in calling in a total collapse.

To correct this requires healing, deep looking and also creativity. My wife and I teach this in all of our upcoming retreats and courses below:

📍 Sept 23–27 — In-Person Retreat: True Intimacy | Longeval, France

📍 Sept 30–Dec 19 — 3-Month Course: The Art of True Intimacy (for couples)

📍 Nov 21–25 — In-Person Retreat: Sacred Union | Sedona, Arizona (6 couples only)

Link is in my Bio for registration and all other information.

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~ Navigating Her Storm ~

There will come a time when the old ways of reacting to her emotional upsets and either tirelessly apologizing, collapsing or trying to be heard while she's in the wound of not being seen will just get too painful and too heavy.

A time will come when you either rise and make a different choice, or become a monk. There's really no other path that's not full of suffering.

You see, the masculine in all of us would much rather be dealing with nothing rather than something.

And yet as long as your alive, there will always be something, even in a cave.

Therefore, if you find yourself as a man of the world and a man of relationship, there's no other way but to find your "YES."

Yes to her storm, yes to feeling it all, yes to being willing to engage your deepest practice and yes to understanding that if you find your peace in that storm there's no need for solitude anymore.

Your true yes, equals your deepest freedom, because wishing anything was a different way than it is has nothing to do with your reality anymore. You are no longer in conflict with life, you are in utter intimacy with its pulse.

Feeling reactive? So simple.. make a different choice and watch your life and all others around you change in the most beautiful way.

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~ Celebrate His Moments of Depth ~

I know ladies, it's frustrating. You feel so much, you see that he doesn't see it, he keeps doing the same things that close your body and is slow to integrate and your frustration builds until you become his mother. I get it, and it makes sense.

However, if you want your man to grow, it can't just be all challenge. You can't just be giving him the hammer all the time. Instead, take some of the raw energy of frustration and use it to show through your body how open you feel in the moments he DOES open you.

Put at least as much awareness and emphasis in expressing your moments of openness from his presence as you do the moments he's unconscious.

He of course, needs to know clearly what's not lighting you up, but equally, if not more important, blast him with love when he is lighting you up.

This in itself is an art form of helping one another in an embodied way open to pure love being with one another in any moment.

My wife and I teach this art in all of our courses and retreats, of which we have many coming up:

📍 Sept 23–27 — In-Person Retreat: True Intimacy | Longeval, France

📍 Sept 30–Dec 19 — 3-Month Course: The Art of True Intimacy (for couples)

📍 Nov 21–25 — In-Person Retreat: Sacred Union | Sedona, Arizona (6 couples only)

Links for all are in my Bio.

DM me with any questions !

#sacredintimacy #relationshiptherapy #intimacycoach #tantrateacher #relationshipcoach #couplesretreat #conciousrelating #menswork #mensgroup #womensgroup #tantricrelationshipcoach

~ Your Deepest Test ~

I understand men, really I do. What's the point of all of it, right? Her moods, her demands, her seemingly endless needs, her seemingly endless dissatisfaction in the way you're showing up, her constant need for more of you and it just seems impossible that you could ever make her happy or satisfy her fully. Do you know this feeling?

You feel you're never good enough for her, you're constantly triggered, you go to bed late, you don't get up early for your meditation anymore because your tired and when you do shes again upset becuase she wanted to snuggle and you just wanted a little time for yourself and you go down the spiral "I'm not free anymore, this is a distraction to my spiritual path, I'm always more happy alone etc etc etc"

Here's the deal, brothers: it's all just a test, a sacred test to see if you've learned to be free in this moment, then this moment, then this moment, then this moment and she won't stop until either you run, or rise and claim the true inner freedom beyond your mind and choose a different reality than collapsing.

Anytime you are less than free, she will have a reaction of some kind, this is the gift of being next to her, not the hindrance.

And If you really think your freedom will be when you're a lone hermit, claim it! And set her free to be with someone who truly values her.

If you trust she can see you deeper than you can see yourself and how to guide you to the true spiritual freedom, claim her! Make her your Oracle, let her all the way in and make being free WITH her your deepest practice.

You're inbetweeness is the cause of your pain, not the relationship itself. You're in pain because you're avoiding standing in your truth and trying to be someone you're not. And by the grace of the relationship, this truth is being revealed to you to be healed.

If you're ready to learn more and break free of the push, pull, open, close endless cycle, there is a way, and there is a path, and it's done in brotherhood.

All links are in my bio.

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LEADING MEN AND COUPLES TO RISE, HEAL AND AWAKEN

WELCOME - MY NAME IS IAN

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WAYS WE CAN WORK TOGETHER

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LEADING MEN AND COUPLES
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